How to Cope With Temper for a Happy Life

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Editors Note: A guest submission from Anthony Schultz to The Prepper Journal. Since I have been working on an article for later in the month titled “Things That Drive Preppers Crazy”, and two of the things I looked at yesterday were the American Education System and The “Media”, I felt like this would make an appropriate post. I will need to reread it often as I finish the aforementioned post. There are a lot of points here that would serve us well everyday as well as in a TEOTWAWKI scenario. As always, if you have information for Preppers that you would like to share and possibly receive a $25 cash award as well as being entered into the Prepper Writing Contest AND have a chance to win one of three Amazon Gift Cards  with the top prize being a $300 card to purchase your own prepping supplies, then enter today!

It would be wise to say that there comes a time when it’s tough to hold that fiery rage which burns inside of us when someone bullies us or hampers our self-esteem. It doesn’t matter how hard we try to control that rage, as, in an array of situations, before we could really control our tongue, we generally end up regretting the blunt snide remarks. We all regret it afterwards, don’t we? Well mostly. Anger is that emotion which has the potential to bring out the real us.

What comes as an uncanny fact is that anger is socially frowned upon. When we talk about anger management, it’s different from that of stress or even anxiety. In most of the cases when you fight with somebody, anger is the reason behind all the embarrassment. Always remember that your temper can bring out the worst side of you. It can be said that you make the worst speech when you’re angry and you might regret the same forever. It is one of the most common regrets sited at funerals.

That said, let’s dig deeper and know more about the ways to cope with temper for the purpose of attaining a happy life:

Controlling the Reaction:

Consider a heated moment and you’re burning with rage, an array of people would end up immediately responding to the situation, right? Well, let’s flip the coin, showing any reaction acts as a catalyst, rather than stopping the argument, it only ignites the rage further. We can say, the best possible approach to deal with the situation is to stay quiet. Always remember that rage is only temporary and you shouldn’t feed the same. Just try to control yourself for a minute or two, and you’ll not only save the embarrassment but staying quiet can be your best face forward to maintain your self-esteem.

Scribble The Unwanted:

According to various scientific publications, writing down the thoughts or simply scribbling them on a piece of paper can help your temper in significant ways, can act as the release needed. When it comes to expressing our emotions in a constructive way, writing them down can be your state of the art pick. In simple terms, when you tend to write what you feel on paper, you grasp your anger in the best possible way. Not only will you cope coup with the depression, but you will attain some measured control over the pain/pressure caused by this linguistic trauma. When you start writing, think about the prime reasons that made you angry, select the quietest place in the vicinity and take your time to get normal, to again gain control of your emotions.

Jogging:

Do you know, exercises like Jogging can help your temper management endeavors in a great way?  Well, we all know that exercise can create an ever-lasting array of positive benefits for both the mind and the body. Jogging can help you control those racing emotions, giving you time to fully process your emotions and analyze your possible next steps. Exercise is like a low-dose aspirin for a heart patient. When you exercise, you not only burn the excess energy, but you really get a chance to think about the reasons as to why the event annoyed you.  When we take the time and think about the aspects that hamper our happiness we can usually work out temper management by ourselves.

Meditation:

Meditation is an excellent way to get back to center, to let other thoughts push this singular-issue to where it should be as opposed to it being omnipresent. And you don’t need to assume the lotus position or hum to do this. When one meditates, they just need a peaceful image, real or remembered. Have you ever walked on a beach anywhere and NOT seen someone sitting their staring at the ocean, watching and listening to the waves or other people there. Realized or not they are meditating and processing images and thoughts and experiences. It is a much needed-break or time to themselves. Benefit are pretty obvious.  Replenishing and refocusing the human brain, calming that rage, meditation is available at your tips. Some people, mostly happy people, look forward to pulling themselves from reality for some time. Doing yoga is a personal choice and may work for you. The bottom line is this helps to acknowledge what you really feel and let it go. Swap the rage with constructive thoughts and see the magic. This would only make your present pleasant and tomorrow easier. Drifting away and escaping the temper void is our best possible pick.

Rage and Efficiency?

Ever heard about reshaping your rage into motivation to achieve something? What comes as a lucid fact is that, you can turn your rage into motivation and, through this, you can improve your efficiency. It doesn’t matter if it’s for your professional life or personal. You can use your temper as a fuel to accomplish the array of the task in a splendid way. Having a tough time with your family? Well, go out and help the community. Rage and Efficiency are highly related, the endeavors capitalize when you have physical tasks in hand to be done. Always remember that you can volunteer for hard work and get rid of the temper by literally burning the rage. When we’re angry, our mind can compile a mountain of a workload in no time.

Just Breathe:

Breathing and our emotions are closely related. Breathing controls emotions like sadness, happiness, fear and most importantly, anger in various ways. When you’re angry, you tend to breathe quickly. The science behind this is simple; you’re raising the blood pressure with abrupt breathing patterns and hence further fueling the rage (like Ferdinand the Bull when it finally dawns on him that he is NOT a sheep). When you’re angry, it’s always advised to breathe in a calming manner and maintain a constant rhythm. After effects? Well, in most of the cases, you end up with negligible to no anger inside of you. Do you know, when you breathe from the right nostril, it oxygenates the left part of the brain and vice-versa? Forcing an alternating breathing habit for few minutes can induce a balancing as well as a calming effect on your brain.

Verdict:

Life is a grand journey when you hold on to anger; you’re simply grasping a piece of burning coal with the intention of throwing it on somebody. If you don’t throw it, you’re the one who gets burned. Letting it go is a symbol of superiority, always remember that you can’t just afford to lose precious moments of your life just because you were angry.

Author-bio:
I am Anthony Schultz, an independent author and as of now working for a thesis writing service. My aptitudes and ability and attitude have helped me a great deal.

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Red J

These are all good ways of self-managing one’s anger. I think you may have put the link to various scientific publications in the wrong place, as that Psychology Today article does not mention writing as a coping method, although it does describe various other coping methods that this author describes.

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Lifting heavy weights and shooting things helps me cope with the myriad of incompetence and stupidity that seems to be becoming more prominent in everyday society.

John
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I had a problem with anger, until one day in the car, angry at some driving trespass, the news came on the radio and announced a study had determined that anger actually causes danger to the body. And my response was “They did THAT, and then I give them another shot at me for free? I don’t think so”. And the anger became considerably easier to deal with. It’s one thing to want to control anger, and good techniques can help with that. Its something else to be motivated to not get angry, and that is half the battle.

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PJ London

Whilst irrational rage over trivia is just silly; ‘He who is not angry when there is just cause for anger is immoral.  Why?  Because anger looks to the good of justice.  And if you can live amid injustice without anger, you are immoral as well as unjust.’ St. Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274) Anger is a basic and necessary emotion ; “Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.” Kubler Ross’ Five Stages of Grief for the dying process. It is dangerous to yourself and others to hide or repress anger ; “We’ll feel unbalanced until we express anger, change the circumstances that caused… Read more »

SanityClaus
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The word temper does not mean anger. You are mistaken.
Temper means equanimity. Temper means composure. Losing ones temper
means losing composure and equanimity. Tempering is a process of heating metal and then quenching it in water or oil to strengthen it. Losing ones temper means losing ones strength.

Wild Bill
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You are confusing your verbs with your nouns.
tem·per
ˈtempər/Submit
noun
1.
a person’s state of mind seen in terms of their being angry or calm.
“he rushed out in a very bad temper”
2.
the degree of hardness and elasticity in steel or other metal.
“the blade rapidly heats up and the metal loses its temper”
verb

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sdds

nice post