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Dealing with Confrontations!

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Editor’s Note: This article was generously contributed by Orlando Wilson. If you have information for Preppers that you would like to share and possibly win a $300 Amazon Gift Card to purchase your own prepping supplies, enter the Prepper Writing Contest today!


You need to have confidence in your ability and training to be able to handle hostile situations. Over the years I have had students come to my classes who have been through self-defense and tactical programs and told how they can prevent themselves being victimized and how as a potential victim they could defend themselves. To me these people were already being placed at a severe disadvantage by being told they were a potential victim, you’re only a victim if you let yourself be. You need a positive attitude, why should you be afraid of some scum bag that tries to intimidate, bully and rob people for a living.

What a lot of people forget is that when a criminal is going to commit a crime they are going to be scared; they are breaking the law and can get arrested, beaten up or shot in the process. Criminals look for easy targets; they don’t want problems as they are bad for business. Remember if you are going to be scared and nervous so are your attackers. Your attitude needs to be that with the knowledge and ability you have you can stop anyone who wants to mess with you, your clients or your family.  The criminal made the mistake of starting the fight with you and they are going to lose, that’s it!

The bad guys will have put together a mental plan and strategy for attacking you, so shouldn’t you have a plan for dealing with confrontations? The easiest way to assess someone’s personal security is to go up and ask them a question like what’s the time etc. By doing this and reading their reaction you can tell if they are security aware or clueless. Now think about how you would react if a stranger approached you and asked you the time; what’s your body language going to be saying, are you going to tell them the time, will you be looking at your watch or assessing their body language, will you be in a defensive stance, are checking for any obstacles in your area that can trip you up, can you access your weapons, would you even be thinking about your weapon etc. The criminals want to set you up and catch you off guard, to do this they will use distractions or surprise. If you understand how the criminals operate you can hopefully spot a potentially hostile situation and avoid it or if it’s unavoidable reverse the situation and set the criminal up for failure.

Once you have identified that you are going to have to deal with a violent situation you need to quickly workout your strategy and put into operation your counter attack. There are three elements needed to win a confrontation; surprise, speed and aggression. If you can combine two of these elements in your counter attack, there is a greater chance you’ll be successful.

  • Surprise: This is the main thing that you require. Surprise will give you the edge in all confrontations, if the criminals don’t expect you to attack them; they won’t be ready to defend themselves.
  • Speed: Your actions need to be fast and decisive, no hesitation!
  • Aggression: Aggression will always beat fancy techniques.

If you understand how the criminals operate you can hopefully spot a potentially hostile situation and avoid it or if it’s unavoidable reverse the situation and set the criminal up for failure.

Other things you will need to consider is what do you want your body language to say, can you access your weapon, are your standing on slippery or uneven ground, are there objects that can trip you up, look for objects that can provide you with cover etc.  If you have already planned you reaction you’re not going to panic, you’ll just be going through your procedures and be setting the criminal up for your counter attack. So, if a stranger approaches you start setting them up by assessing their body language, assessing your surroundings, getting yourself into a defensive stance, consider what you want your body language to be saying, select target points on the stranger and think about how you’ll access your weapon.

Shootings generally take place at very close quarters and there will be many obstacles which you can trip over like curb stones, chairs and tables etc. be aware of what’s around you. Chances are you will not have the space or time to get into textbook shooting stance, so this is where training in one handed close quarter shooting is a must. You should use distractions as they can give you the seconds needed to deploy your weapon or move to cover. When you are out and about on your daily business always consider how you would react if attacked by those around you. The next time you are at the mall or in a coffee shop look around workout if you could access your weapon quickly, are you in a good position, what you could use as cover and how you would exit the building safely!

One of the main things that you need to learn is how to assess someone’s body language and control your own. This is very important skill as you need to try to identify someone’s intentions and not telegraph to them your potential response.

There are three main components of communication between humans; spoken words contribute 7%, vocal tone and volume make up 38% and body language makes up 55% of the message. So, let’s say you’re approached by someone while pumping gas into your car and they are telling you how much they like your car; their breathing rate is shallow and accelerated, their sweating and making agitated movements with their hands. Are you going to engage them in a conversation about the car or read their body language, assess your surrounding and be ready to deploy your weapon!

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What to look for – Observe these very common traits and you should be ready.

Start reading people’s body language, at a basic level you can generally tell if people are happy, sad or angry. Even though it’s not 100% reliable, someone’s facial expressions are good indicators to what mental state the person is in. If someone is stressed, their faces will be flushed, they may be sweating, have veins protruding in their neck or forehead and they may be a tensing their facial muscles.

When you are out at the mall or in a restaurant or bar, watch the people around you and try to identify what mood they are in or what type of discussion they are having with others. It should be easy to identify if a man and a woman are on a romantic date or two business people are having a heated discussion, when in a coffee shop try to determine what people are looking at on their laptops; are they concentrating or goofing around. You must learn to read body language, because this will help you identify, avoid and if necessary react to potential threats.

When a person is involved in a stressful situation their body will undergo over 150 different physical stress reactions. These stress reactions will happen to you and criminals alike, you need to be aware of them and be able to notice them in yourself and others. A bodies stress reactions include: adrenal surges, increased heart rate and blood circulation, sweating, increased respiration, increased muscular tension, reduced peripheral field of vision, reduced decision-making ability and auditory exclusion.  If you have ever been involved in a car accident, try to remember how you felt just before, during and after then try to remember if you felt any of the above reactions. If you have ever tripped over something and subsequently fell, try to remember what it felt like; for example, did the time between you actually tripping and hitting the floor seem longer than the fraction of a second it took in actuality, were you sweating and was your heart beating rapidly when you hit the floor?

Learn to read your own body language as well as others, if you are in a situation and your heart rate starts to increase or you start to breathe quickly; try to identify why this is happening. Look for these stress reactions in people around you, if someone approaches you and their face is flushed, eyes are wide and bloodshot and have veins protruding in their forehead and neck, maybe you want to try to avoid them or get ready for a confrontation!

Warning signs that identify someone is agitated and a potential threat include direct prolonged eye contact, flushed face, accelerated breathing rate, sweating, veins in neck and forehead are protruding, hands moving towards a concealed weapon, hands rising getting ready to strike, eyes narrowing, looking to see if you are armed or at intended target’s areas on your body, changing to side on shooting or fighting stance and lowering the body before launching an attack.

Always remember, if the criminal is street wise they will be monitoring your body language and trying to predict your reactions. You should never give any indication that you are going to defend yourself or are armed; your reactions should be a total surprise to you attacker. You must have an offensive mindset, not defensive. You should always keep a low profile, do whatever you can to avoid problems but if put in a situation where you have to use force the bad guys will be totally over whelmed. Remember, fighting is for amateurs, you just end things!

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  • Wullow Still

    Fails to mention the most basic self-defense measure: Get the hell out of there if you don’t have a compelling reason to stay.

  • RAIDER

    I also focus in personal space, IE nothing or no one unfamiliar is allowed to enter my personal space in these sorts of situations, and my personal space is a 360 degree arc of my arms length if the situation gets serious that radius increases by the reach of my PD Baton as well. Anything or anyone coming inside my personal space I put down hard as best I can. I also endevour not to be backed into a corner or dead end and never let one of the opponents friends get behind me.

  • EgbertThrockmorton1

    Good article on the basics of recognizing the how/when/why a confrontation is going to occur. Well written. While WullowStill did add correctly, get the hell outta there IF you have NO business being there, (I will add), and IF you are transiting the area. Just leave. If you are not present, YOU will not be in a confrontation.
    However, Mr. Wilson correctly identifies the pre-attack indicators that Sheeple NEVER look for, nor will they ever CHOOSE to recognize!
    Swift, overwhelming, sudden ruthless violence in defense of yourself, IS the key to overwhelming your adversary. Now, that I am retired from law enforcement, I no longer HAVE to be there….I choose to NOT be involved, unless I am at my retirement job . I choose to be there, because I love the people I work with and what we do. If necessary, my choice is to violate the personal space of the few thugs who do venture in to the venue, with a smile on my face, and get as close to them physically as they will allow. Most, allow that invasion of space, and choose not to be a thug. Problem resolved. The very few who shrink away, just aren’t sure what is coming their way, and choose to leave immediately. Again, problem resolved. A very few hardcore thugs will tip their hands far sooner than they want, thereby, causing a revelation of their real intentions. Now we KNOW who and what we are dealing with, makes our job far easier. If we don’t HAVE to be there, just plain leave, it’s OK, your ego is far less important than your physical and emotional well being.

    • Tom Schuckman

      That is called Recon, or “Probing” the enemy’s defenses. –Old Army, Vietnam: 68-70. Please visit my humble Blog: TOM’S JOURNAL. Email: tschuckman@aol.com — Jesus is Lord.

    • Orlando Wilson

      Cheers!

      Orlando

  • Any Amy

    I think this is a very well-written article, but I have to disagree that most criminals are going to be nervous, etc. Most are NOT. They’ve typically committed this deed many times over. They may be on drugs or otherwise impaired. They may feel like they have nothing to lose because their family is starving or whatever. I worked in one of the largest public hospitals in the USA in a big southern city and have seen a whole lot — and we also served prisoners from local prisons. They would do — and often did — anything, including risking being shot in the hospital, in order to try to make a break for it. I saw another time where one of the Social Workers was abducted and held at gunpoint by a mentally unstable man who’d gone off his meds. The police ended up having to shoot him (killed) in front of over a hundred people waiting at the hospital pharmacy because he was threatening to shoot into the crowd as well as kill the Social Workers and officers. It was tragic and terrifying.

    Please don’t assume ANYTHING about your attacker… that they are poor, that they are male or female, that they are sane/insane of a specific race or nervous or inexperienced or “just a kid”. Focus on yourself and your training and spotting warning signs in other people’s behavior.

    • EgbertThrockmorton1

      Absolutely correct! The faux intellectuals that have deceived themselves into believing the “Jean Val-Jean” reason that thugs are thugs, are fools. People prey upon others simply because it is EASY!

  • GRAMPA

    If you can avoid people then some diversion would work. People are repulsed by sick people. they dont want to catch what you have. With a hood type jacket that shades your face you can avoid most looking at you. If you are confronted some makeup to make you look sick and the blood capsule slid into the mouth with a cough and caugh again spitting out the blood and watch people back away. exclaiming that you are ok reinforces them to believe you are sick. a small stagger forward and they should leave you alone if you don’t appear to be carrying anything. Get some Halloween makeup but not zombie like. you just need to look jaundiced and dark circles around the eyes. the blood cough is really revolting.
    Grampa